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Hi, my name is Catherine and I am a recovering codependent.
Codependency is an acquired mental health disorder, based on social conditioning and upbringing.
At its core, codependency means that I don’t didn’t love myself. I was not taught to love myself. Instead I was taught that to give all of myself to others made me a good person, and keeping myself to myself made me a bad person.
I was taught that self-love is shameful; by people who themselves had been shamed into not loving themselves by their own social conditioning and upbringing.
I’ve had enough. By not loving myself I have treated myself and others badly.
No more.
I now practice self-love.
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I’ve been judging myself for not doing enough each day towards actualising my dreams - for not having the ability to make them happen all by myself, without God’s support - and then shame spiralling with thoughts like “Maybe I’m actually a pathetic waste of space” and “Maybe I DON’T actually deserve my dreams” and “Maybe I’m actually arrogant to believe that I DO deserve my dreams.”
“Maybe I’m actually crazy to give up the EU passport. Maybe I’m actually too fucked up to function without it.”
“Maybe I actually misread the signs and symbols that All sent me and I’m stepping off my path into oblivion and All won’t welcome me back after making this misstep and then I’ll be powerless AND alone...”
Being came to me and said, Maybe you actually need a reminder that you’re actually worthy of love and belonging. At that moment my phone pinged and it was a notification that brought me a reminder that I actually am worthy of love and belonging, a reminder that I actually am loved and I actually do belong.
Thank you All. Thank you Being.
Thank you.
I stopped making New Years resolutions many years ago. Today I decided to start a new tradition for myself; to make New Years Affirmations instead; things I learned from last year that I want to bring into my practice of showing up well for myself and loving myself in the new year.
Sharing is caring. I hope you’ll find something here that you resonate with.
24 New Years Affirmations
I surrender my fears and act with courage, dignity and self-respect.
I seek to live with love in every moment.
I acknowledge that I am not in control and I don’t need to be.
My job is not to choose the path but to enjoy the journey.
Every moment is full of boundless potential for
jubilation.
I feel safe enough in my higher power’s love to let go of my desire to control anything outside of myself - especially other people, situations and outcomes.
I gratefully and joyfully surrender to All’s plans for me.
I let go of my fears of falling short of others’ desires of me.
I let go of my fears of being fallible, imperfect and human.
I let go of my fears of being judged, criticised or condemned.
- I know that I am not responsible for, nor am I in control of -
other people’s behaviour or experience;
only my own.
I relieve myself from measuring myself and others
and judging myself and others.
I relieve myself of any feelings of ingratitude
for the past behaviours of myself and others.
Every interaction that I have had with All’s beautiful construct of
- the world -
has been a blessed lesson
that continues to offer me opportunities for jubilation.
I release myself from the nightmare
of fruitlessly trying to force the future to emerge as I crave it to.
I embrace the beautiful now and focus on doing the work that I am brought to do
in the present moment in order to lovingly bring together the system
that will allow for the natural, healthy and stable emergence
I take pleasure in doing things
to the best of my present abilities
and I enjoy changing my behaviour
and learning new skills.
I trust my higher power to guide me
so I may have loving and healthy
interactions and relationships
with the world
without becoming enmeshed or attached.
I embrace opportunities to play with others.
I enjoy experiencing
shared fun among equals.
I welcome every moment of gamified data-sharing.
I enjoy having healthy boundaries
because they help me to clearly write my role
in my relationships with other characters
in the story called Life.
I faithfully follow my path
As it is revealed to me
Even when I’m afraid
and I can’t see more than a minute ahead of me.
Just for now
For this most beautiful moment of All
I faithfully follow my path.
I gain more long-term value from
Who I am being
from moment to moment than from
What I am doing.
I take pride in being a person who makes the most of
what I am brought to work with.
I resign from idealism & perfectionism.
Everything I am brought is already perfect as it is, and ideally suited to me.
I don’t need to spend energy trying to be perfect.
I am lovable.
That’s plenty good enough.
I gratefully surrender my desire to control the future.
I allow events to occur as All Wills them to.
I humbly surrender my will.
Insha’Allah.
I recognise and appreciate
the grace of others
who hold space for me.
I am ∴ I matter
I recognise that when I feel anxiety;
it is because I am not engaging with the present moment.
I practice mindfulness
- sensuality, gratitude and faith -
to bring myself back to the beautiful now.
If I feel unsafe,
I examine my boundaries,
first with myself and then with the world.
I do whatever self-loving action will ensure my return to a sense of safety
as a precious, free and beloved creation of All.
I recognise my lovability in All’s eyes
in every moment
in every way.
Happiness is available to me:
here and now in the present moment.
I find the joy and follow the joy.
My happiness is my responsibility and my honour.
I make my desires known,
let go and let God
and gratefully accept
whatever All brings me to play with.
I no longer play God by trying to force outcomes.
I gratefully and joyfully
welcome healthy and loving
relationships.
Where my attention goes;
energy flows.
The shape of my thoughts
shapes my reality.
I live and let live.
You be you
and I’ll be me.
Alongside each other
where we belong.
I make no demands of either of us.
We are free.
